If you’re going through a divorce right now, chances are you are in survival mode. You are having to make big decisions, process your grief and anger, and keep daily life going all at the same time.
That's a lot.
As Jeannine Lee says in her brilliant book Beyond Divorce*, taking care if yourself is an integral part of honoring yourself and your process. It makes so much sense, yet it can be so hard to do. The thing is, our nervous system and our emotions are linked. Taking care of one supports the other.
To guide you towards taking better care of yourself during this time, here’s a list of powerful ideas from the book.
Tip 1
Nutrition: It’s simple… eat well. Ensuring you get the vitamins and protein your body needs to regulate blood sugar and provide energy, is critical. Your doctor or a nutritionist can provide detailed guidance here if you feel your body is depleted.
Tip 2
Consider natural remedies: Being open to trying vitamin supplements and natural remedies such as lavender oil, bach flowers and other herbs to support you during periods of high stress. Some are also great natural sleep remedies too. Much better than overdoing the alcohol to try to manage the stress.
Tip 3
Protect your teeth: Sounds odd to say but makes perfect sense. When we are stressed, we’re more likely to grind our teeth or clench our jaw, so checking in with your dentist to get fitted for a mouthguard (or even buying one over the counter from the pharmacy) will be a great short term support.
Tip 4
Try journaling: Writing your thoughts down in a journal that is yours and your alone, can be very helpful. You don’t need to share those thoughts or the journal with anyone else. It can be that friend you literally ‘download’ to in the middle of the night when no one else is available.
Tip 5
Get out in nature: Walking with a friend, or sitting quietly in the outdoors can be very calming. Getting out in the bright daylight can do wonders for a blue mood. You might also try walking places you’ve never walked before, or walking a favorite path, to simply soothe you.
Tip 6
Music: Calming sounds and music provide emotional release. Your favorite songs, mature sounds, low fi instrumental music can be especially helpful.
Tip 7
Spiritual practice: Meditation, prayer, focused breathing or any other spiritual practice that feels meaningful to you will really help to center you and provide a sense of calm. Calm comes with being still, not doing more.
If you or someone you know is struggling through the tough journey of divorce and could use help to navigate the emotional strain, ask me about my 3 month Beyond Divorce Recovery Program .
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